jeanniejeanniejeannie.co.uk BLOG Friday 21st January 2022
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
At what point in life would you say you learned the most?
To me it has been since I have had grandchildren. I just learn so much from them. I also have to learn so much about them too. How to bring them up in the best way possible, for example. And how to sort their problems, their illnesses and give them and prepare them for the best life possible.
Having grandchildren was like a career change for both me and Mamma.
Coincidently our first two grandchildren came along just as we were given the opportunity to retire. That was in both our cases.
Usage of our time was just like putting a hand in a bucket of water. When we gave up work you would think there would be a huge time gap to fill. But there wasn’t because grandchildren commandeered that that time plus even more in addition. They demand even more commitment than a full-time job, if you are doing the job of grandparenting properly.
We now have four amazing individuals who have taken on the role as our grandchildren.
Amazingly they are such distinctive, individual characters. The individuality is something I love and yet I am amazed at. As I was equally amazed with our own children. And my nephews and nieces. (6 beautiful people brought up the same yet all 6 so very, very different.)
We had two daughters, obviously with the same bloodline. We brought them both up the same way with the same disciplines and same beliefs and same understandings. Ok, we have to admit it, daughter No.2 was probably not brought up with the same novelty value as baby No.1. Sorry, but we are only human. But everything else was the same.
And then when our daughters went on to have their children, they brought them up both the same.
But yet, all four of these children of our children are so uniquely different and original but in some ways just like identical twins.
There is often comments too that certain ones of the four have certain characteristics and habits like Mamma or Grandad. Strange how these tend to be bad or unfavourable characteristics.
As I said I have learned so, so, much from my grandchildren. And learn even more every day and look forward to doing so.
Like there is a video game named Plants Vs Zombies. How come in 72 years I had never learnt that? Am I dumb or dunber? And there are endless features on my phone and tablet that they alert me to.
Things I hated, or things I could not understand or things I found so boring I find I am now compelled to love, be passionate about and know inside out due to grandchildren:
For example, Football – I hated with a passion and found it so boring. I now have to talk about it, show interest in it, play it, watch it, write about it, read about it and take a general and detailed interest in it.
Board (Bored) Games – I have always hated boarded games finding them so utterly and a completely utterly waste of time and so very, very boring. But now I have to play them enthusiastically and constantly. Even or especially Monopoly that goes on and on and on and on.
Dinosaurs – I have never been bothered about dinosaurs. Far too old for me to worry about. But I have had to sharpen up on my dinosaur facts and skills having grandchildren that have the mind and knowledge of a fully qualified Paleontologist and expect me to have a similar knowledge.
Strictly Come Dancing – I have not just two but three left feet and not one beat or rhythm in my awkwardly stiff body which led me to avoid anything that remotely resembled dancing. But now I have to be Strictly Come Dancing savvy if I have any chance of conversing with my granddaughter.
A granddaughter who has very definite views of life and the world. Like when she grows up she will have a job that does not mean she does not have to put her children through having to go to Breakfast Club or After School Club. She also feels her mum should go for a job with less hours and less money. The reason being she wants a dog. Mum and Dad will not let her have one because they are out at work all day and it would be unfair on the dog. If Mum had a job with less hours, they could have a dog. A lesson for me here, get your priorities in order. Don’t let money rule your life.
Last Monday we collected an excited grandson from school with a brand-new cornet. No, not a chocolate ice cream one with hundreds and thousands sprinkled on the top. A shiny brass musical one. It had been issued to him at school that day and he had had his first cornet lesson. Once home he proudly played it for us. His face was a picture.
The smiles on his face were unbelievable as he carefully held the shiny cornet with such pride.
That is one of the pleasures of grandparenthood. I missed these pleasures with my own children due to the pressures of work. Money before family you see, but not anymore.
I never learnt to play a musical instrument. We certainly did not have these opportunities at this age.
Three of our grandchildren are now learning musical instruments. The fourth is not quite old enough, but he will do when the opportunity crops up. Football keeps him happy at the moment. Maybe he will take up the Football Whistle.
The instruments they play are Piano, Flute, and Cornet.
We were also fortunate enough to be on pick up from school duty the day my granddaughter was issued with her flute and had the privilege of her playing the first tune she had been taught in the first lesson.
Again, she was full of smiles pride and confidence about the adventures her flute will take her on in future years as she learns to play it.
May be as with many things to date I should be inspired by my grandchildren and have some lessons to learn how to play an instrument, but which one I wonder?
TOP TEN OF THE DAY
THE TOP TEN RULES OF HELPING SOMEONE
- DON’T ASSUME
- DON’T OVER REACT OR TAKE CONTROL
- DON’T JUDGE ME
- SEE ME
- SEE MY POTENTIAL
- DON’T LABEL ME
- BE KIND
- GIVE THINGS TIME AND BE PATIENT
REMEMBER: The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.
– Nicolas Chamfort
INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE FOR THE DAY
Life always offers you a second chance. It’s called tomorrow.
Happiness is…being a grandparent.
GRANDAD’S ONE LINER JOKE OF THE DAY
Doctor, doctor! Every time I stand up quickly, I see Mickey Mouse, Donald Duck and Goofy.
How long have you been getting these Disney spells?!
Love is…sometimes a battlefield.
A time to work at your career long, long hours…A time to be a 24/7 grandparent.
©2022 Phil M Robinson